Thursday, June 5, 2008

Suicidal days for students

Bangalore witnesses 6 suicides on an average PER DAY!! This was a shocking headline to read in the newspapers recently. When one tries to ponder over this issue, one cannot help but think what is on the person's mind when he/she decides to commit this deadly act. Everyone says that only a coward can take such an extreme step, but I think you do need a lot of guts to invite death on your own accord.
But on a serious note, its the suicide of the students that is a matter of concern. Why are students jumping to end their lives? Low marks, parents harassment, peer pressure etc.. Who are the people who are to be blamed for this show? Parents, schools, or society. I think we all are the stakeholders for this apathetic condition.

The major flaw, according to me, lies in the Indian parenting system. Though I consider myself too immature to comment on this, as I have no experience at it as of now, but I have seen enough to find many faults that is giving rise to this unhealthy condition for the children to grow and prosper. The parents right from the day the kid starts his schooling, they want him/her to top in the class. Even before the child has learnt about his/her own basic interests, likes and dislikes, he/she is made to accept the truth that to be successful (i.e. to earn money) he/she has to follow the beaten paths. How can a young child, say 14-15 years, be made to understand competition and asked to important career decisions??!! Our educational system hardly has any scope for counseling. A child needs guidance and counseling to make the right decisions. He/she should not be asked just to follow in the herd. But hardly this is the case in most of the Indian family households today.
Human beings are the only creatures who let their children come back home. And its high time that children are shown the human side of parenting. Children need to be talked to. They need to be made understand on how the world's rat race works. They should not be coerced to become another rat in this race. With care, love, comfort levels existing between the parents and children I am sure these things can come to an end. Signs of boredom, solitude should not be taken lightly by the parents. Children require guidance and sympathy far more than instruction. The best way to give advice to is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it. There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One is roots; the other, wings.

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